Earlier this year I was asked to share something about homeschool moms that everyone should know. Can you guess what I shared?
“Homeschool moms don’t have it all figured out.”
Did you fall over in shock? 😉
The truth is, it’s not only others that think we have it all figured out, but too often as fellow homeschool moms we fall into the trap of comparison.
Why Do Homeschool Moms Compare Themselves?
If deep down we know that no one is truly perfect, than why do we so often catch ourselves in the trap of comparison? There are a few reasons:
Homeschooling is a gift that allows us more time with our children.
That’s more time to pour truth into their hearts and minds. The enemy knows that and feeds our minds with lies to distract us from our calling.
We are all in different seasons of life and motherhood.
It’s tempting to look at moms in different seasons and think they have things figured out, but in reality their struggles are different than ours.
- You might be a mom that only has little ones. Your days are busy and a lot falls on your shoulders. You’re also in a very sweet season of discovery, cuteness, and laughter. Don’t wish these days away.
- Perhaps you’re a mother of teenagers. Life is busy and seems to be speeding by. Your little child has grown into a young adult with ideas of their own and that can be scary and frustrating at times. On the other hand, you’re able to have much deeper conversations with your child now, you share inside jokes, and truly are becoming friends.
- Then their is the mama that has children somewhere in the middle. These are the years of so much character training. At the same time, these years are when you see your child really developing their personality and they are able to do more on their own.
- Of course, many moms have a mixture of various ages and are in many seasons at the same time.
Each child is different.
Mothers of strong-willed children, can I get an amen? 😉 I’ll confess I used to be the mom that wondered how a child could be so unruly and chalked it up to parenting. Then God blessed me with a BEYOND strong-willed child. Needless to say, I’ve been very humbled in the parenting department.
If you have more than one child you know it’s true that each child is different. Do yourself a favor and don’t compare your children to each other or to a fellow homeschooler’s children that “seem” perfect. Celebrate the differences in your children.
We Want to Feel Better About Ourselves
The truth is comparison can go both ways. Sometimes we compare ourselves to others that we think are less than perfect. Why? So we can feel better about ourselves.
This form of comparison is just as dangerous. Looking at and comparing yourself to someone else will not change you into the person you were created to be. The only place you should be looking is inward at your own heart.
Most of us have been through seasons of overwhelm. Maybe it was brought on by illness, a busy schedule, or a life changing event. During those seasons of overwhelm it’s easy to look at others and feel like:
- They have a perfectly clean home.
- Their school days are productive and smooth.
- They have a loving marriage.
- Their children don’t argue and are kind to one another.
Those are all lies.
I’m not saying that their home isn’t clean, it might be.
They may even have productive and smooth school days, occasionally.
Their marriage might be in a great season, but everyone has to work at having a healthy marriage.
Their children might get along well, but children are human and not perfect. They argue and aren’t always kind.
Don’t compare your life to the minutes you see of someone else’s.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed join me for the 6 Weeks to a Better Homeschool Year Challenge. Notice I didn’t say “perfect.” Each weekday for 6 weeks I’ll send you a simple challenge in a specific area to help you get out of the overwhelm and start living in the joy you were called to.
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