Is Courting a Thing of the Past?

I can’t wait to share my husband’s culture with you. You will love it (I do.) Learn these 3 reasons why courting isn’t outdated and what this family does instead. I think many of us think about this “dating” thing when kids get close to the teen years. Denial is a nice place I like to be (my daughter is only 12, so I can stay in denial for a bit).

What is courting anyway? Does anyone do it anymore? Its core intention is to marry, so it’s a big thing. We try to tell our daughter whenever we can. It is a little easier because of where live right now. Let me explain.

We live in the Kingdom of Tonga. It is a very culturally rich and traditional nation. It currently has been very deeply influenced by Western culture, which is really sad, especially for my husband. He grew up when things were still very “old school”. Girls were super modest and the boys would work the land with their dads.

Things are a little different now, there are drugs here and it just got a little bad. However, there still are families that uphold the traditions of the past, which I love. For those families (there are many still even at older ages – like  20 to 30-year-olds) who uphold traditional values, there is still courting.

If a boy wants to get to know a girl, he has to present himself to the parents and ask first. Then they can only see each other at her house and only if parents are home.

Then if they decide they want to get married. The man has to come to the girl’s family’s home with gifts (usually, a pig, cakes, etc.) to ask her parents for her hand in marriage. I love that we are able to show our children this culture and our expectations.

Explore some in-depth insight on courting and how this family plans to do instead. It is a great read.

Stop by In All You Do to glean from 3 reasons courting isn’t outdated and what this precious family does instead.

Need some reading materials for your teens?

Live Fearless: A Call to Power, Passion, and PurposeReap (The Harvest Saga Book 1)Shaken: Young Reader’s Edition: Fighting to Stand Strong No Matter What Comes Your WayColor the Words of Jesus: A Christian Coloring Book: A Scripture Coloring Book for Adults & Teens (Bible Verse Coloring) (Volume 6)

We value your privacy and promise never to send you spam; you can unsubscribe at anytime. View our Privacy Policy for more information on how we process your data.

Jeannette Tuionetoa

Jeannette is a wife, mother and homeschooling mom. She has been mightily, saved by grace and is grateful for God’s sovereignty throughout her life’s journey. She has a Bachelor in English Education and her MBA. Jeannette is bi-lingual and currently lives in the Tongan Islands of the South Pacific. She posts daily freebies for homeschoolers!