This is the first post in our Date Night Series!
I know this is a homeschooling freebie site, but we also like to share encouraging posts as well. I don’t think I have ever written about marriage on here before, but have been felt led to talk about dating your spouse. First, I am going to share with you about our new weekly date night plan and how it has impacted us and our children. Then in the weeks to follow, I will be sharing ideas and freebies for date nights!
You may be wondering, “A weekly date night? How is that possible? I have no one to watch the kids, or we have no extra money, there is no way we can date on a weekly basis. ” I was the same way, my husband and I said the same things, it was such a chore to get out of the house. When we did get a sitter we usually had to rush back to a nursing baby who wouldn’t go to sleep without mama, or we had to try to get the baby to sleep before we left which never worked. There were often times we would be fighting the way out the door to the date. It just wasn’t worth the stress!
So we didn’t date. And years went by, and my husband went to school and changed careers. Job hours changed, and more babies came, and pretty soon we were deep in the throes of work, and life and homeschooling, and raising children, and just trying to survive. We had lost our touch with one another.
Then there we were, at the marriage counselor’s office being encouraged to date each other. OUCH.
Determined to fix things and be a better husband and a better wife, and better parents to our kids, we decided to try this dating thing. We are very blessed with the ages of our children right now, we have a very sweet, giving, responsible teenager, and we don’t have anyone in diapers anymore! We miss the baby stage, but are loving watching our kids grow. It was much easier this time around for us to figure out a date night.
Here is Our New Weekly Date Night Plan:
We go out once a week. We picked one night a week that we go out. We try to budget money for going out, but sometimes we can’t afford it so we will do something that is free! In a future post I will share some fun free date night ideas. There are some nights that we can’t leave the house due to a late work day or someone being sick, so we have a date at home. This is great to do if you have little ones that go to bed early. I will be sharing at home date nights in another post as well! We have been doing this consistently for two months now and have noticed a big difference in our relationship and in our kids! They love that we are going out and they encourage it!
On our date day, I make sure that the house is clean and that school is done early that day so I have time to get ready. My girls think it is the sweetest thing ever that Mommy and Daddy are going on a date! They always want to know where we are going, what we will be doing, and they usually want to help me pick out what I am going to wear and tell me how I should wear my hair! They get to pick out a movie that everyone loves and they usually get to eat dinner in the living room in their pajamas. The kids think it’s great. As date night approaches they are always bugging us about it and making sure we are going to go! They have been great cheerleaders. I think it’s great for them to see us working on our marriage and being intentional with one another.
My husband and I think it’s great. At first it was a struggle, and honestly, it felt forced at times and awkward. Sometimes we didn’t even know what to do or say. We weren’t used to spending time alone outside of the home without the kids. We weren’t used to having a conversation without being interrupted. This really showed us how much we have neglected one another. After a few times, it got easier and we both look forward to our weekly dates. We take turns planning things and we have done some really simple dates and even a few extravagant ones. It is nice to get out. It’s a breath of fresh air each week, something to look forward to. We are loving each other, we are being funny and kind and we flirt! It’s been really good.
There have been some rough patches in our marriage, and it hasn’t been easy. Dating again has been such a blessing for our marriage and for our kids. I encourage you to try it!
Do you have weekly dates with your husband? Please share with us in the comments below!
Sarah is a wife, daughter of the King and Mama to 4 children (one who is a homeschool graduate!) She is a an eclectic,Charlotte Mason style homeschooler and has been homeschooling for over 16 years now. She is still trying to find the balance between work and keeping a home and says she can only do it by the Grace of God, and Coffee!