Are you looking for a deeper connection with your teenage son?
Sometimes navigating the teen years can be difficult. Teens are going through many changes, emotions and the stress and business of life. It is so important to connect with them during these years. These years are precious and they are quick. Developing a strong connection with your teen will help you to be able to better speak into their life as they are making decisions and navigating the waters of their future.
If you are a mom of a teenage boy you may find it hard to get them to communicate with you. Some boys have a harder time talking and expressing their feelings and you may be searching for a way to better connect with him. I know that my girls have no problem telling me how they are feeling or what they want, but for boys it’s just a little more difficult. I don’t know how many times I have asked my son about something and he just stares at me with a blank look on his face! Sometimes it’s just hard for them to express how they are feeling.
Here are 10 ways to connect with your teenage son! Hopefully during these times it will help to build better conversation with each other.
1. Eat Together As Often As Possible:
As your teen gets older he may have more outside activities like a job, or extra curricular activities that keep him running to and fro everywhere. When life gets busy is when you need be intentional in finding time to just stop. Eating together is a great way to do this. Look at the family calendar and find nights when everyone will be home together at the same time and make sure that you have set days that you eat together as a family. Sometimes this may mean eating earlier or later than normal. Having a routine in place in the midst of the craziness will help to ground everyone and your teen will know that he always has a spot at the table with you no matter what. The consistency will help to either build or maintain a stronger relationship with your son.
2. Take Him Places With You:
If you find yourself always on the go, make sure to grab your son and take him places with you! You may think that most teen boys won’t want to go shopping, but you may be surprised. If you need to stop at a store in the mall you can always have him run your errand with you and then have him take you to a place that he wants to go. You’ll be surprised at how much fun and silly conversations that can strike up when you are running around places together.
3. Play Games:
Board Games are a fun way to connect and be silly together. Take it one step further and have your son teach you how to play a video game with him. If you already like to play video games have a video game battle or marathon game playing session!
4. Cook Together:
Cooking is a great way to connect and build memories together. It’s also an important life skill for your son to learn. One day he will be a husband, what a blessing it will be to your future daughter-in-law to have a son who can cook and help her in the kitchen! Let him pick his favorite meal or something he wants to learn and make an afternoon of it. He can go shopping with you for the ingredients and then you can oversee as he cooks or you can work together in the kitchen.
5. Work on a Project Together:
Find a project that you can tackle together. You can even let your son pick the project and you can spend a weekend working together on it. Not only will you have some great quality time, you will accomplish something great in the process!
6. Pray With Him:
This is so important! Remember when your son was a little boy and you used to sing and tuck him in to bed at night with a sweet nighttime prayer? This doesn’t have to change because they are a teenager. Nights are a great way to connect. The busyness of life has slowed down and they are more open. Ask your son what he needs prayer for and pray for him. Is there something he is struggling with in school or with friends? Pray with him about it. The more you pray for your son out loud the more comfortable he will become in praying out loud himself.
7. Listen When They Talk:
When your son starts talking to you listen. Sometimes they just want a sounding board, or just want to chat about something that may not seem important to you, but it is important to them. When you listen with an open heart to them you are being their confidant and building a trust in them that they come to you about anything!
8. Serve Together:
Serving is a great way to connect with your teen. You can join a serve team and your church and work together there or you can pick an outside organization to serve at. Serving is such a rewarding experience and you can build some great memories and experiences by serving others.
9. Find a Common Interest:
Do you both like to read? Pick a book series that you can read together. Do you both play an instrument? Consider learning some new songs together. Do you like to work outdoors? You can create a garden together. The sky is the limit. Find something you both enjoy and spend time together on that hobby.
10. Go on a Mother/Son Date:
Make sure that you set aside a time every month that is a special time just for the two of you to do something together. This will give both of you something to look forward to each month! If you aren’t sure where to start then you will want to check out this post:
Sarah is a wife, daughter of the King and Mama to 4 children (one who is a homeschool graduate!) She is a an eclectic,Charlotte Mason style homeschooler and has been homeschooling for over 16 years now. She is still trying to find the balance between work and keeping a home and says she can only do it by the Grace of God, and Coffee!